What Women Should Not Say On A First Date

Women have a very distinct advantage over the male species, they eventually work out how they think. However, first dates can still be a minefield, and certain things are best left unsaid.

"MY SISTER IS GETTING MARRIED IN SIX WEEKS AND MY MOTHER WANTS TO SEE A DOUBLE WEDDING." If you say this, not only will you make the guy run to another planet, but you may frighten him sufficiently to have a cardiac arrest. You may even be talking to a guy who wants to settle down, but this is a definite no no, on the first few dates. Even if he wants a long term relationship, this is the best possible way to pour cold water over any budding romance.

"YOU MUST COME AND MEET THE FAMILY." Don't rush the guy and back him into a corner, men react like feral cats to this sort of pressure, they strike out - far into the future with another girl on their arm.

"I AM SOLEY RESPONSIBLE FOR THE CARE OF MY PARENTS." Leave this information for a later time, if you do not want to scare someone off. The guy may be a caring sensitive guy, but they may well feel trapped.

"MY EX AND I USED TO COME HERE ALL THE TIME." Nowadays most people accept that they are not going to have a single relationship, that will last their whole lives, in most cases, only Adam and Eve did that. If you are over the age of sixteen, chances are you have a history, but the first few dates are not the time to mention this fact.

"I AM OLD FASHIONED AND I EXPECT MY MAN TO PAY FOR EVERYTHING." Firstly you are being territorial too early, and you are laying a claim to someone you have just met, that is bad enough. Then you compound the error by clearly stating you are looking for someone who will always pay. This information will come out eventually if that is the way you feel, but try and keep it under wraps, for as long as you can.

"MY KIDS EXPECT ME TO BE HOME AT 10.00 P.M." You are either ready to date or you are not. This statement says that your children are more important than your social life. Accept the fact that you are entitled to a life of your own, and that you are not doing your kids any favors by putting them first all the time. Draw on your family and friends and find another babysitter. Don't reinforce the statement that your kids are controlling your life.

"WOMEN ARE BETTER DRIVERS' THAN MEN, AND I WANT TO DO ALL THE DRIVING." Oh - a control freak. Men like to think that they are in the driving seat. By taking control on your first date, you are emasculating him, right at the beginning. Most men are happy to go into abdication mode and let you take over but at a later stage of your relationship.

"I DO NOT BELIEVE THAT WOMEN SHOULD WORK ONCE THEY ARE MARRIED." You may as well say I want to settle down immediately and have a meal ticket for the rest of your life. Even if you are talking to someone that does believe that married women should not work, on the first date this is taking things way too far.